"Just calm down" are three words that never has the desired effect.

This happens: The opposite. The person becomes more activated. We all know this: That when you are worked up, calming down takes an unreasonable amount of effort.

So let's go with where the energy is at. If I am worked up, could I also calm up?

"Just calm up!"

This can be done. Acknowledge the activation, and meet yourself calmly where you are at.

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